The Pitfalls of Single Parenting

 When you have a child outside of wedlock, you step outside of the divine order and plan of God. You can Him for forgiveness for sinning against Him but there are consequences for the act(s) of disobedience; experiencing difficulties you didn’t have and responsibilities over things that you have to do on your own. You have to financially support yourself and your child without (or minimal) help; have to go to court to get child support and talk the boy/man into stepping up and doing his part to even buys pack of diapers and a few bottles. IT IS HARD AND NOT EASY! I have seen people who have seen my struggles with being a single mom and raising them by myself and still go and get pregnant and have a baby too! Some thinking that having a baby is easy and that the same thing won’t happen to them and they will have it in order…turn around and deal with even worse struggles.

Look. A man/boy will say anything good when you are still in that pregnancy shape, saying they will be there for you, but when you start showing and poking out, the mentality changes (especially if they are not of God and lack responsibility, self-control, selflessness and maturity), they are looking for a way out because it is sinking in they will be a father and playtime will be over. God sends people in your path to see their life lessons so you won’t make the same mistakes. If you are a single parent or about to be a single parent, hold onto God and do the best you can for your son/daughter. If you are a teen mom (or will be a teen mom), do take your parents advice, especially if your mom is or was a single mom. Get up and work on getting a job after you heal from delivering your baby and finish school 🏫 and let God be God in your life. The next man that gets you pregnant…let that be your husband, a man of valor, a son of the most High God and stop letting the devil sweet talk you. Make something of yourself. You DO NOT need a relationship with the father in order for him to be a parent to your child. Listen to God and keep your eyes 👀 open and your heart open to be obedient to Him. Don’t allow another man to sweet talk you into planting his seed 🌱 when he has not honored God, loves God nor has taking the legal steps in making you his wife and his treasure. Get crazy about God and less crazy about a person who has made your life miserable and hasn’t valued you as someone who is priceless to God. Don’t worry. God will provide and He will give you the tools, strength and wisdom to push through. Don’t be a fool for a man just because he got you pregnant, but be wise enough not to sin against the Most High God again.

I am not judging. I have been there and done that and suffered much before I rededicated my life completely back to the Lord. My story is deep but there is purpose in the pain I went through so I could be a vessel to help you with the help of God. Take your eyes off the messenger and take in the message. As a single mom, I struggled a lot and was oppressed financially. Some days money would come out of nowhere while other times I had to go to food pantries or had to delay a bill to buy groceries or pay a bill at the last minute, but that was a lesson for me to not rely on man but on God. The consequences of my disobedience came with a high cost. God still had His hands on me because I was still holding onto Him. Babies are beautiful and a gift from God and so are you so don’t settle (again) for being a baby mama again to the same dude when he can make you a wife to a man who will love you and your child. You are beautiful and of value because God made you and don’t allow a man treat you less than God treats you. God bless you. Your future is STILL bright. ❤

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